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Have our lives become so mundane that we require a new set of seasonal attributes to lift our spirits? Or is it a form of mindful overconsumption, feeding our minds the same spike of joy as the foam we sip out of our mugs?

Still, who cares? The real question is: what’s your pumpkin spice latte? What makes your chest tighten with giddy anticipation? What drops into your life and whispers, “new, new, new”? Because that’s what this whole Pumpkin Industrial Complex really sells: the promise of renewal, every year, without fail.

Here comes the peanut gallery shouting “Stop! This is overconsumption!” Or “Stop! The seasons will change!” And now add in me, asking you “Stop! What brings you joy like your favorite pumpkin-scented anything?”

Because the truth is desire was never shallow. Culture just loves to costume-change what’s ‘worthy.’ It calls your latte basic but your burnout noble. It sneers at pumpkin soap dispensers while applauding your yearly iPhone funeral. Desire itself isn’t the problem, the cage surrounding it is.

But don’t let the Scrooges of the pumpkin season fool you. Truly only one question matters: “Why wouldn’t you?”

Why wouldn’t you sip the pumpkin latte, buy a scarecrow soap dispenser, say yes to the maze? Why wouldn’t you lean into wanting, just because you can?

That’s the real terror haunting the season: not ghosts, not witches, but you. A person unafraid of their own joy.

Because that’s truly what the Pumpkin Industrial Complex fears. A person who wants, simply because they can.

Winter dryness is no joke, but finding the right body wash can make all the difference. I tested 4 popular SheaMoisture body washes to see which ones truly deliver on hydration, glow, and skin care benefits.

Spoiler alert: there’s a winner, but each has its perks!

Here’s my honest review with ratings:

1. African Black Soap Body Wash

Key Ingredients: African Black Soap, Oats, Aloe, Vitamin E
This one’s a hidden gem if you struggle with uneven skin tone or dark marks – it really works to clarify and smooth your skin. After a week of use, I noticed my skin looked more even and felt less irritated. The rich, earthy scent gives spa vibes, but it might not be everyone’s favorite.
Rating: ☆☆☆ (7/10)

2. Coconut Hibiscus Body Wash

Key Ingredients: Coconut Oil, Hibiscus Flower, Vitamin C, Songyi Mushroom
Glow goals achieved! This is hands down my favorite. It brightened my skin, leaving it soft and radiant, and the tropical scent transported me straight to a beach vacation (mentally, at least!). Perfect for adding some summer vibes to winter.
Rating: (10/10)

3. Raw Shea Butter Body Wash

Key Ingredients: Raw Shea Butter, Frankincense, Myrrh, Pro-Ceramides
If your skin is crying out for moisture, this is your answer. It’s super nourishing and leaves you feeling like you’ve just stepped out of a luxurious spa treatment. The rich formula is amazing for parched skin, but it might feel a bit heavy for daily use if you’re on the oily side.
Rating: ☆☆ (8/10)

4. Virgin Coconut Oil Body Wash

Key Ingredients: 100% Virgin Coconut Oil, Coconut Milk, Glycerin, Acacia Senegal
Hydration lovers, this one’s for you. It’s lightweight but ultra-moisturizing, leaving my skin feeling soft and smooth for hours. The subtle coconut scent is perfect for everyday and refreshing without being overpowering.
Rating: ☆☆ (8/10)

The Verdict:

• Best for Brightening: Coconut Hibiscus takes the crown.
• Best for Moisture: Raw Shea Butter is a winter skin savior for dry days.
• Best for Dark Marks: African Black Soap clears up uneven skin tone like a pro.

No matter your skin’s winter woes, SheaMoisture has you covered.

Which one are you adding to your cart?

*This post is in partnership with SheaMoisture.

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2. Take a moment to describe a specific natural setting or moment in nature that deeply moved me this summer. How did it make me feel, and what lessons can I carry forward from this experience?

3. What were the biggest challenges I faced this summer, and how did I overcome them? In what ways did these challenges contribute to my personal growth and resilience?

4. Reflect on the meaningful connections I made with family and friends this summer. How did these relationships enrich my life, and what can I do to nurture these bonds moving forward?

5. What new hobbies, interests, or skills did I explore or develop this summer? How did these discoveries contribute to my sense of self and personal fulfillment?

6. Describe a moment of rest and rejuvenation that stands out from this summer. How did I prioritize self-care, and what practices can I continue to incorporate into my daily routine?

7. Did I take any risks or seize opportunities that pushed me out of my comfort zone this summer? How did these experiences shape my perspective on courage and personal growth?

8. If I traveled this summer, what were the most memorable moments or encounters from my journeys? How did these experiences broaden my understanding of different cultures and perspectives?

9. Reflect on a moment when I positively impacted someone else’s life this summer. How did this experience affect me, and how can I continue to make a difference in the lives of others?

10. As I transition into a new season, what aspirations, goals, or dreams am I carrying forward? How can I maintain the momentum of growth and exploration that summer has inspired in me?

Take these questions as an invitation to reflect deeply on your summer experiences, allowing them to guide your introspection and inspire growth as you move into the next season of life’s journey. Reflect on them introspectively or take them as journal prompts, whichever helps you most.

Take Time

Amidst the flurry of events and gatherings, don’t forget to prioritize yourself. Take time for yourself, whether it’s indulging in your favorite book, going for a walk, or practicing meditation. Recognize that it’s okay to take a step back and recharge when needed.

Set Realistic Expectations

The holidays often come with high expectations, but it’s essential to set realistic ones. Understand that you can’t be in multiple places at once or meet everyone’s expectations. Prioritize events and commitments based on what aligns best with your well-being.

Say No

It’s okay to decline invitations or requests politely. You don’t have to overextend yourself to please others. Saying no doesn’t mean you don’t care; it means you’re valuing your mental and emotional health.

Say No… to Your Phone

With technology at our fingertips, it’s easy to feel overwhelmed by constant communication. Set boundaries on when and how you engage with technology, including choosing who you allow to blow up your phone and knowing when it’s time to stop comparing your holidays to everyone else’s. Allowing yourself uninterrupted moments can help you relax and engage with those physically present.

Seek Support

If you find it challenging to maintain boundaries or feel overwhelmed, seek support. Reach out to friends, family, or a therapist who can offer guidance and understanding. Having someone to talk to can make a significant difference.

Reflect

After the holidays, take time to reflect on what worked and what didn’t regarding your boundaries. Use this reflection to adjust and improve strategies for future celebrations.

Remember, setting boundaries isn’t selfish; it’s an act of self-care and self-respect. By maintaining healthy boundaries, you’re nurturing your well-being and fostering stronger, more authentic relationships. This holiday season, prioritize yourself, communicate openly, and cherish the joyous moments while safeguarding your emotional space.

1. Self-Care Subscription Box: Treat your bestie, mom, sister, or girlfriend to a monthly subscription box filled with self-care goodies like skincare products, bath bombs, or wellness essentials.

2. To the Jewelry Store: Luckily, jewelry pieces can be found almost anywhere – from your local craft store to TJMaxx, and of course, jewelry stores at the mall or outlet. A piece of jewelry with special charms, initials, or a date engraved can add a personal touch and be a cherished gift.

3. Books: Books are considered one of the most thoughtful gifts to be given. Why? Because it symbolizes a personalized exploration of a new genre, topic, or fictional world. Plus, they tend to be more affordable!

4. Fitness Gear: For the fitness enthusiast, workout gear, a yoga mat, or even a subscription to a fitness app could be an ideal choice.

5. Care Basket: These gifts tend to be a nice, simple, and quick DIY. Combine a bundle of small journals, skincare, candies, and throw in a blanket or robe to create a holiday care basket.

6. Creative DIY Kit: Fuel your giftee’s creative side with a DIY kit for painting, knitting, candle making, or any other hobby they might enjoy.

7. Gourmet Treats: A small basket or box filled with their favorite gourmet chocolates, teas, or snacks can be a delightful way to show appreciation.

8. Bath Kits: As a big fan of LUSH, consider buying a bath/shower kit that’s made to make you or your giftee feel clean and natural.

9. A Gift Card: Although it may seem simple, a gift card to their favorite store or even a new boutique in town is not only nice, but always useful.

10. Subscription Services: Opt for subscriptions such as streaming platforms, magazines, food subscription boxes, or language learning apps for continuous enjoyment throughout the year.

Remember, the essence of gift-giving lies not just in the item itself, but in the thought and care behind it. Whatever you choose, it’s the sentiment that truly matters during this joyous season.

Wishing you all a happy and peaceful holiday season!

Love, Bella

Let’s explore how to fully relish the fall season, just like an old friend you haven’t seen in a while.

Walks Amidst Nature’s Artistry: 

Imagine strolling through your local park or wandering into the woods, and with each step, you hear the satisfying crunch of leaves underfoot. The trees stand tall, dressed in their finest fall attire. Don’t just walk; dance amidst the vibrant foliage.

Pumpkin Spice and Everything Nice:

It wouldn’t be fall without the intoxicating aroma of pumpkin spice. Go ahead, savor that pumpkin pie, indulge in pumpkin spice lattes, and perhaps, try your hand at carving pumpkins with friends and family. It’s all part of the fall magic.

Cozy Nesting:

 When the chill air becomes noticeable, it’s time to work on creating the coziest nest possible. Dig out your favorite blankets, toss a few extra pillows on your couch, and light a cinnamon-scented candle. It’s time to snuggle in and enjoy.

An Orchard Adventure:

There’s something undeniably satisfying about picking your own apples at an orchard. It’s a delightful outing that pairs perfectly with fresh apple cider. Don’t forget to take a selfie while surrounded by apple trees.

The Art of Fall Cooking:

 As the leaves turn colorful, so should your cooking. Experiment with recipes that highlight the season’s bounty. Whip up butternut squash soup, sweet potato casserole, or cranberry studded desserts. Your kitchen will be filled with the delicious aromas of autumn.

Recipe 1: Pumpkin Spice Smoothie Bowl:

Because Who Doesn’t Love Pumpkin Spice?

Ingredients:

• 1/2 cup canned pumpkin puree
• 1 ripe banana 
• 1/2 cup Greek yogurt
• 1/4 cup almond milk (vanilla-flavored if you’re feeling extra)
• 1 tsp honey
• 1/2 tsp ground cinnamon
• 1/4 tsp ground nutmeg
• 1/4 tsp ground cloves
• 1/4 tsp vanilla extract
• Toppings: granola, chopped nuts, sliced apples, and a honey drizzle

Instructions:

1. Blend together pumpkin, banana, yogurt, almond milk, honey, spices, and vanilla.
2. Pour it into a bowl, and this is where the fun begins—top it with all your favorite things.
3. Grab a spoon and dig in!

Recipe 2: Sweet Potato Pie Overnight Oats

Ingredients:

• 1/2 cup rolled oats
• 1/2 cup mashed sweet potato (cooked and cooled)
• 1/2 cup Greek yogurt
• 1/2 cup almond milk
• 2 tablespoons maple syrup
• 1/2 teaspoon ground cinnamon
• A pinch of nutmeg
• Chopped pecans or walnuts for topping
• Whipped cream

Instructions:

1. In a mason jar or airtight container, combine oats, mashed sweet potato, yogurt, almond milk, maple syrup, and spices.
2. Stir well to combine all ingredients.
3. Seal and refrigerate overnight.
4. In the morning, give it a good stir, top with nuts, and a dollop of whipped cream if you’re feeling extra indulgent.

Recipe 3: Pumpkin Spice Latte – The Ultimate Fall Sip

Ingredients:

• 1 cup brewed strong coffee or espresso
• 1/2 cup milk (any type you prefer)
• 2 tablespoons pumpkin puree
• 2 tablespoons maple syrup (adjust to taste)
• 1/2 teaspoon pumpkin pie spice
• Whipped cream
• Cinnamon for garnish

Instructions:

1. In a small saucepan, combine milk, pumpkin puree, maple syrup, and pumpkin pie spice.
2. Heat the mixture over medium heat, whisking continuously, until it’s hot but not boiling.
3. Brew your coffee or espresso.
4. Pour the coffee into a mug and add the hot pumpkin milk mixture.
5. Top with whipped cream and a sprinkle of cinnamon.
6. Sip and savor the sweet, spiced goodness of your homemade Pumpkin Spice Latte.

With these fall recipes, you’re all set to embrace the enchantment of this season while staying on top of your game. So, go out there, get your pumpkin spice latte, and stay cool for autumn.

But as August approaches, and the responsibilities of school and work loom on the horizon, it becomes evident that it’s time to rekindle some other relationships.

One of the primary places where relationships need rekindling is the workplace. As we return to our offices and workspaces, there is a unique opportunity to reconnect with colleagues and forge stronger connections. Engage in team-building activities, initiate meaningful conversations, and be open to collaborating with fresh perspectives.

Similarly, as students head back to school, the excitement of reuniting with old friends and the prospect of making new ones are upon us. Reach out to classmates you haven’t spoken to in a while, join clubs or organizations that align with your interests, and be open to meet new people. Remember that learning isn’t just about academics; it’s also about understanding and connecting with others.

Beyond the realms of work and university, consider engaging in social activities that align with your interests and passions. Whether it’s joining a sports team, attending community events, or volunteering, be receptive to new experiences.

So this week, let the fading summer sun be a reminder that it’s time to rekindle the flames of relationships old and new, and embrace the connections that lie ahead.

Many of us are ambitious, creative women who have spent the summer renewing our health habits, such as hitting the gym, focusing on our businesses and passion projects, or applying for schools and career programs for the upcoming fall. Some of us are finally embracing the present and prioritizing self-care, or at least trying to. However, there are those of us who feel stuck.

Recently, while scrolling through “Threads,” the new Twitter-like app created by Instagram, I came across a quote that struck a chord: “Anyone else feeling sad this summer?” It caught my attention because, typically, we tend to showcase our best, happiest selves during the summer. However, the replies to that comment revealed a different reality. Numerous users expressed a unanimous feeling of being trapped in a rut, experiencing sadness or loneliness, or being hurt by constant comparisons to friends or family members who have the privilege of traveling and truly enjoying the summertime.

In that moment, I realized I had found my place. I, too, have experienced this sense of summer dread. Despite everything appearing positive on paper (two internships, dedicated focus on growing Living By Bella, being back with family, and more), I still feel like I’m lagging behind everyone else.

Your One Thing

This led me to write “Summer Season Solace” to describe the shared sentiment some of us experience during the summer. So, here’s my task for you: focus on your ONE thing this summer. Identify the one thing that ignites your interest, motivates you to get out of bed, something you could talk about for hours, or an activity you would love to pursue if you had the free time.

To be honest, one thing that has been helping me regain my drive is contemplating the concept of death. My mom passed away in her early 30s, and it has haunted me how someone so full of life and purpose could leave this world with seemingly unfinished dreams, like starting her own nonprofit organization. While this perspective may seem somber, it serves as a constant reminder that each day is brimming with life, and the career I desire, the people I love, or the goals I set could be taken away at any moment. This reminder has pushed me to reach out to friends, focus on writing more, and apply for additional fall internships, because each of us has a purpose that we must pursue with determination.

– Bella <3